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I have noticed recently that when I wear different outfits I get treated differently. I went to the supermarket the other day in trackies and a hoodie, (because they’re comfortable, not because I’m a chav) and an elderly couple pushed me out of the way like I didn’t exist. I’m all for respect your elders and I am always polite to elderly people, but I understand why people get irritated and are rude to them. Respect works both ways. If you don’t give it, you don’t get it. Walking around the shop I noticed people looking down at me, and looking at what I was wearing. People were pushing past me left right and centre. The next day, I went out in a dress and black tights and I had people holding doors for me, and smiling at me. Walking around the shop people were conversing with me and apologising if they accidentally bumped into my heel with their trolley. 
Why should people treat you any different because of the clothes that you wear or because you dye your hair a different colour from the “norm”? 
I suppose it’s because it’s so much easier for people to tarnish you with the same brush as apposed to actually giving you a chance and getting to know you.  I for one will still be wearing trackies when I want to feel comfortable and ridiculously high shoes when I want to feel confident. 
I hope that none of you have changed the way you look to please someone else. You are all beautiful…and smart!  

“Over the past couple of years, clinicians and researchers alike have been moving towards a new conclusion: Depression and anxiety are not two disorders that coexist. They are two faces of one disorder.

“They’re probably two sides of the same coin,” says David Barlow, Ph.D., director of the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University. “The genetics seem to be the same. The neurobiology seems to overlap. The psychological and biological nature of the vulnerability are the same. It just seems that some people with the vulnerability react with anxiety to life stressors. And some people, in addition, go beyond that to become depressed.”

They close down. “Depression seems to be a shutdown,” explains Barlow. “Anxiety is a kind of looking to the future, seeing dangerous things that might happen in the next hour, day or weeks. Depression is all that with the addition of ‘I really don’t think I’m going to be able to cope with this, maybe I’ll just give up.’ It’s shutdown marked by mental, cognitive or behavioral slowing.”

At the core of the double disorder is some shared mechanism gone awry. Research points to overreactivity of the stress response system, which sends into overdrive emotional centers of the brain, including the “fearcenter” in the amygdala. Negative stimuli make a disproportionate impact and hijack response systems.”